Oftentimes today people find that they cannot honestly answer a marriage survey in terms of the happiness questions. That experience often leads people to question if their relationship is solid or doomed.
-The subject of Marriage Quality and Marriage Happiness are topics of everything from talk shows to your favorite supermarket magazine. While these are serious issues and require a sober thought process, they are often dealt with in a flip even comical fashion.
There is nothing comical, however, about a marriage that is in trouble. If you find yourself in this category you should think about really taking a qualitative look – using a trusted technique – to determine if your situation requires further action.
If you do discover that there are tell-tale indicators of problems then you can make the next move and seek out help for yourself and your marriage.
How can you tell if your marriage is on a strong footing or if there are tell-tale signs of genuine problems that reflect a long-term picture that is not at all good? Well, the place to start is with blunt honesty with yourself and your mate. There is no point in play games with yourself just for the sake of making it look good for yourself, your mate, or friends and family. Again, this is crucial if you are trying to get your ex back.
Having said that, the question remains – How can you tell if your Marriage is on thin ice? While the causes and depth of problem issues is much more complex, identifying a questionable condition of your marriage is relatively easy to achieve.
It starts with how the two of you feel about one another. This is truly key – especially if you are in a separated situation and are trying to get your ex back. Here are the top 5 questions that most experts agree are the key interrogatives regarding the health of a marriage:
1. Are you spending less time with your spouse than you used to?
2. Are the two of you engaged in serious conversation or arguments more often than lighthearted ones?
3. Are there topics of disagreement that resurface and never seem to be resolved?
4. Do you engage in fun things together – movies, dancing, theatre, dining out?
5. Do you confide in others, seek out others for fun or sex?
Answering in the affirmative on multiple of these questions is a general YES to the question – is my marriage floundering? On the other hand, however, if your answers are mostly in the negative – then you probably should have some genuine concern about the real health of your marriage. The obvious trump card, however, is number 5. You may have the semblance of happiness to your mate and others but if you have outside “interests” that should be found in your mate – then your marriage is on shaky ground. If you are trying to get ex back this is really a mandatory exercise.